Releasing yourself from the Past | Pure Beauty Photography Blog

Releasing yourself from the Past | Pure Beauty Photography Blog

For so long, I've still remained attached...attached to my marriage that ended over two years ago.

Is it love keeping me bound? That's a resounding NO! - those feelings are well and truly gone! Is it because I spent the best part of fifteen years in a relationship with him? No!
Is it because we have children together? No!- but that will continue to keep him in my life - we co-parent and we do it well. The kids have always been our first priority throughout, and continue to be, and we have to be able to communicate to ensure this remains to work.

My attachment, until very recently, remained by name.

I chose to keep my married name after the separation, and also after the divorce was official, because "Everyone knows me by that name. It's too involved to change it again. I can't be bothered." etc, etc....

But approaching the first anniversary of my divorce, something in me began to stir. I was motivated and ready to make changes, BIG changes!

​Within 24 hours I was compelled to change my name back to my maiden name. This was like an unseen force was driving me to do it. Yes, it was going to be annoying, going to Centrelink, the Bank, all the updates everywhere, but none of it was putting me off.

I truly felt it was the right time, for me, to make the change,  and to release me back to my own self once again.

"A name represents identity, a deep feeling and holds tremendous significance to its owner."
- Rachel Ingber

Really, who would have thought that doing so would make me feel lighter, like I'd just had heavy chains lifted from around my shoulders? I do feel somewhat lighter, ready to move forward in my life, to live for me.

The future somehow seems brighter and easier. I'm coming back to being the "old me". The me that had fun, didn't care about people judging me (not that I really ever have anyway!). I feel like my parenting style is different - more chilled out and relaxed - mostly! And my attitude! Cue that sassy, fun attitude once more.
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I do wonder what the deep rooted reason was that was stopping me from making the change?  But I also fully believe that our own intuition will lead us in the right direction at the perfect time in our lives.

As for dating.....well, let's just leave that one for another time...

​Love Kim xo
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