Pure Beauty BDSM Bombshells - Mildura Boudoir PhotgrapherIt seems today that couples and individuals alike are now embracing a darker side to pleasure and not feeling so closeted about it. BDSM is now becoming a very mainstream phenomenon with Rihanna singing "chains and whips excite me", everyone falling in love with Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey and lets not forget Joe Manganiello in Magic Mike XXL and his sexy BDSM themed strip. Not too long ago we did a shout out to my beauties seeing who would be willing to get a little naughty and take part in a BDSM boudie call and the results were amazing! After the shoots, we interviewed some of the girls about their experience with BDSM and what they would say to anyone looking to experiment. None of these girls are experts and have such a varied range of exposure so it goes to show that anyone can step out of their comfort zone and spice things up in new and different ways. So before we jump into what the girls had to say, let's have a little vocabulary lesson for some of novices out there. BDSM: An overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM). Bondage: Bondage is the practice of being tied up or tying your partner up in order to gain sexual pleasure. Dominant: The person in BDSM who dominates or controls the submissive/partner. Domme: A female dominant in a BDSM relationship. Submissive: A person in BDSM who submits to a Dominant person. A submissive can be a slave and/or the bottom. Wax play: A form of temperature play practiced in a BDSM context. Role play: To act out your sexual fantasies using characters (police officer, nurse, etc.) Sensory deprivation: Sensory deprivation is a form of sensation play that is often incorporated into BDSM. It involves depriving a person, usually a submissive, of certain senses, such as sight and hearing. When were you first exposed to BDSM? Jess B: I've seen BDSM in movies ect so that is probably when I first became aware of it. Jess C: About 2 years ago Bella: For most of my adult life (18 onwards) I have been aware of aspects of it and began to dabble in it. Sam: I think it was when I read 50 Shades of Grey and seeing the Red Room at Sexpo. What made you want to do this Boudie Call? Jess B: Something different and the chance to dress up and act naughty Jess C: To put myself right out of my comfort zone as this is what this year was about for me. I've gone out and done things I never would of dreamt of doing before! Your comfort zone won't get you anywhere! Bella: With the brand ambassadors I've kind of been dubbed the kinky freak :P It was just expected that I would do this shoot. Sam: I wanted to do something that brought me out of my comfort zone but also let me explore this world a bit more! Where you nervous about showing this side of yourself? Jess B: No not at all at the photoshoot, but in my own bedroom most definitely, the dominant side of me lays a little dormant. Jess C: Absolutely, but Lauren made me feel so comfortable every step of the way. Bella: No way! this was right up my alley and it's something I am not shy about. Sure it's not something I may openly share with my mother but if she sees, she sees! (Update: My mum, her friends and everyone in attendance at the Pink Ball saw one of my images of me wielding a riding crop) Sam: Definitely! Lol. But all the nerves went away in the first 5 minutes of shooting. Do you consider yourself a novice or and expert (or somewhere in between) in the world of BDSM? Where you nervous about showing this side of yourself? Jess B: Definitely a beginner. I've never been able to experience that side of me so never looked into it any further. Jess C: Wouldn't consider myself an expert at all, I am very much still learning. Bella: In no way an expert but I am definitely past my novice days. I am still exploring new things myself but I am someone that my friends can come to advice when starting out themselves. Sam: Definitely a novice. What do you identify as? (Dominant, submissive, switch, etc.) Jess B: I'm not quite sure, I've never experienced BDSM but I definitely identify more with a dominant. Jess C: Switch Bella: I'm still discovering this for myself. Some friends say I'm a straight out Domme and I definitely was when I was younger but in the past couple of years I've grown to become more submissive and enjoy the play from that side of things Sam: I'm a switch depending on what mood I'm in! What about BDSM excites you the most? Jess B: I think its the roleplaying that excites me about it and I guess the fact that I relate to the dominant side. It's exciting to get dressed up and acIt a little naughty. Jess C: That every encounter is so different being a switch. Bella: For me its pushing my limits and having the trust in someone else to expand my boundaries. Sam: I love the passion it brings out and the sexy confidence it gives you. Is it something that is regularly apart of your life, or something to sometimes spice things up? Jess B: It's not apart of my life at all. I'm embarrassed about myself in my own bedroom so I'm scared to try new things I think I would like. Jess C: It's only something I do every so often, but it makes it even more fun to me personally! Bella: For the most part it's involved in most relationships I have. I find things more satisfying in the bedroom when even just small aspects of BDSM are involved. Sam: It's more just a bit of fun when you have been married for so long. Finding new things to experiment with always helps to spice things up If you aren't too shy, what's something that intrigues you that you would want to give a go? Jess B: The handcuffs, blindfold and maybe a feather that could be very sensual. Getting someone to explore your body in that way is such a turn on. Jess C: I would love to learn wax play and different rope ties. Bella: Definitely would like to explore sensory deprivation a bit more and how it can heighten other senses. Sam: Using candle wax but I have no idea why that intrigues me lol! What would you say to someone nervous about dabbling in BDSM but wanting to give it a try?
Jess B: I'm not sure because I am one of those people way too scared to give it a go in my own bedroom. Talk about it with your closest friends and definitely do a BDSM themed photoshoot, you will be surprised just how naughty you can get in safe environment. Jess C: Give it a go! You never know until you give it a try. There's no right or wrong way, it's whatever you feel comfortable with and you can try new things as you can experience. Bella: As long as it's something you want to do and no one is pressuring you, absolutely give it a go! Do some research online, talk to friends, getting informed will boost your confidence. Sam: Just go for it! You will discover your limits and learn so much about yourself while gaining so much confidence
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Steph's Sportswear Boudie Call - Mildura Portrait PhotographerSteph is an incredibly hard working and motivated 23 year old who applied to be one of my sportswear boudie calls. Between working as a dj, personal trainer and retail assistant, she is on her way to becoming quite the entrepreneur. It was such a pleasure to have her in the studio and see her absolute kill it as a sportswear babe. Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? I was nervous as insecurities got in my head but at the same time I love trying new things and I put all my fear aside and just go for it! What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? I actually got tagged in a post to enter a competition going at the time and I won it. I was so excited and glad I got that opportunity! Did I provide enough pre-session info? Yes! Everything was loud and clear How did you feel BEFORE your session? I was excited. Being really into fitness I am always putting extra pressure on myself with my body but when the day come I was just in the zone. How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? I loved it! The girls were beautiful and got me hyped for my shoot! How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) AMAZING! It made everything so easy for me when getting told to go in certain positions and poses. The energy in the room really had me motivated! Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? Not really because I didn't really know what to expect so I already came into it not really knowing how it was going to be but as mentioned early I love a challenge and I think that's what made it more exciting. How did you feel AFTER your session? AMAZING! I felt so happy and left in confidence. What was your favorite part? The whole thing really but seeing the end result and not expecting to be as happy with my photos with my insecurities and seeing how much I loved them was an awesome feeling! What was your least favorite part? When it finished! Time went quick because we had so much fun! Would you ever do another session? Yes! How did you feel when you saw your images? Very proud of myself to have the confidence I did and extremely happy. Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? It encouraged me to love my body and be confident and own it. We must love ourselves in order to be happy in life. Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session?
As scary as it seems don't let fear stop you. The feeling you get is so amazing and feeling proud for something you have achieved for YOURSELF is unreal. Especially those lack self love really need to do something like this to remind yourself how beautiful you are and to let everything go and do this not for anyone else but yourself because you ARE beautiful and deserve it! Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? I think I have cleared everything up. These images are something I will have forever and to look back on one day to either make my children proud or embarrass them :) however I did this for me and I will never forget it! Do you give me permission to use this information on my website & on social media? Yes Plus size lingerie and where to get it! Being on the curvier side it can be difficult feeling sexy when you feel like there are a lack of options out there, but trust us, there is a world of options out there for you and we have compiled a list to make your lingerie shopping experience a whole lot easier!
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Written by Bella Feldgen Gorgia's Boudoir Experience - Mildura Boudoir PhotographerGorgia, 24, came into the studio as a group session with her sisters. She absolutely rocked the sporty look. The entire day was just amazing from start to finish & the girls got some special bonding time. Gorgia shared some thoughts on her experience below: Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? Body image; I managed to put on about 9-10 kilos before the shoot since booking.. What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? My sisters! Did I provide enough pre-session info? Yes How did you feel BEFORE your session? Week before, broke down in tears. Hour before, extremely calm/zen How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? Yes did an amazing job How would you describe the session? Ended up feeling really comfortable, I knew I would from previous feedback but could not stop laughing too!! Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? Didn’t have certain expectations, came in with an open mind - turned out great!! How did you feel AFTER your session? Empowered!! What was your favorite part? The whole thing What was your least favorite part? Wished it went for looooonger because I had so much fun, I need to do my own!! How did you feel when you saw your images?
Sneak peak was great, excited to see more!! Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? I haven’t bought lingerie for myself for about 8 years so was great to feel sexy again!! (Note to self: keep buying lingerie!!) Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session? Have faith, you are beautiful in your own way and Lauren will help capture your beauty in a way that you may have never seen before <3 Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? JUST DO IT! Future you will thank you for it!! |
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AuthorMildura resident and Photographer, Lauren Southwell launched Pure Beauty in late June, 2018 & is committed to helping woman feel beautiful, sexy and empowered through the art of Boudoir Photography. |