LAUREN Southwell is the face (and personality) behind Pure Beauty, a beauty and boudoir photography business in Mildura.
Those that frequent the VIP Pure Beauty Facebook group, the website or have been lucky enough to have an experience with Lauren in her studio will know she’s easily identifiable by her enthusiasm and passion, for life in general but also for empowering females across all mediums.
But who is Lauren, how was Pure Beauty born and what inspires her to be the amazing person she is.
We find out:
Pure Beauty: Can you give me a bit of background into yourself?
Lauren: I have always known I would be in a career where I could “help people”.
Since primary school I was always someone my friends could confide in.
I gained a sense of importance when I was trusted and it is, still to this day, one of the most powerful motivators for me in life.
On the other hand, for as long as I can remember, I had a very distorted, negative view of my body.
I would feel disgust looking in the mirror or thinking about sexual activity.
My self esteem lacked, as did my confidence and I found myself living with a number of mental health issues including anxiety, depression and anorexia nervosa.
I spent a lot of years trying to improve my mental health through therapy, medication and other lifestyle adjustments.
Once I began talking to people about my own thoughts I realised most women have some degree of negative self talk.
Ater buying my own lingerie and taking selfies, I gained an appreciation I never thought possible.
Two years on (and numerous selfies later) I have never felt as much love for my body in my whole life, than what I do now.
Pure Beauty: Can you explain to me how the concept of Pure Beauty came about and why?
Lauren: When I was pregnant with my twins in 2013, I spent a fair bit of time off work.
I started to understand my importance as a photographer and to value my work and myself, which made me want to research into the selling of printed, tangible products.
I watched hundreds of hours of video resources, including a lot of live videos by one photographer in particular.
She lived in the US and just happened to be a boudoir photographer.
When I first saw her images, I was in awe but thought “I could NEVER do that”.
The more I watched her videos, the more I saw the client's perspective and the change in their confidence was incredible to see.
I started to think perhaps I could do this.
I began researching beauty and boudoir poses, lighting, marketing and everything in between.
I thought I was ready to launch in 2015 but soon enough, we were delighted with the pregnancy of my daughter.
I continued to research and was close to wanting to launch when I realised I needed to work on my own self esteem first.
One day I was out having a few drinks with two photographer friends and I announced to them why I wanted to launch boudoir.
By the end of my blabbing, one of them said “you have even convinced me to do a shoot!”.
Two weeks later we were shooting the very first Boudoir shoot in a hotel room.
It was the very first time I had felt 100 percent confident in a photoshoot.
The feeling I got from showing her images of herself was incredible and extremely addictive!
Pure Beauty: How old is Pure Beauty?
Lauren: That first Boudoir shoot was March 22, 2018.
From that moment, I knew I wanted to make this my career.
I was scared, excited and so nervous, but I planned my launch party and officially launched on June 29, 2018.
Pure Beauty: Before Pure Beauty you had Purely Taken Photography. How did you originally get into photography?
Lauren: When I was 12 I was given my very first film camera for my birthday.
I literally took it everywhere.
I became known to be the girl with the camera.
I’m sure my friends and family got sick of me pointing a camera in their face but that didn't deter me.
My love and passion for photography continued after school as I enrolled in a photography course and grew with me when I moved to Australia at the age of 18.
It was then, I started getting asked to photograph families, people, animals and even a wedding.
The more images I took, the more I was asked to photograph, the more passion I had.
Pure Beauty: The Pure Beauty concept puts you in a powerful and unique position of being able to either remind or show each and every woman just how amazing and beautiful they are. What is it like to be able to deliver this to your clients?
Lauren: It is something that is extremely hard to explain.
I don’t think I truly understood the power of an intimate portrait shoot until I started to hear back from clients, hours, days, weeks even months after their shoot, thanking me for changing their lives.
It is the most honest work I have ever done and I am so incredibly thankful to each and every client for trusting me!
I have never felt as proud as when I look back on my Pure Beauty journey.
Pure Beauty: What is the most rewarding thing about your job?
Lauren: It would be easier to say what’s NOT!
I love hearing my client's stories, meeting new ladies and forming amazing friendships along the way.
During the experience there is a point at which each woman “let’s go” of the fear, worry, pain of feeling judged, not good enough or just looking silly.
That is definitely one of the most memorable moments for me as I know it is that exact moment where the empowerment truly happens.
Showing my beauties their images both behind the camera and at their reveal, is of course another hugely rewarding part and again when they collect their images.
But perhaps one of most rewarding things is when I get messages like: “Thinking of you for many reasons but just wanted to let you know how proud I am of my postpartum body and no longer even having any negative thoughts about my body. A boudoir experience lasts way longer than the photo shoot xx”.
Pure Beauty: It's most people's dream to be doing a job they love. How does it feel to be doing what you love each and every day?
Lauren: Absolutely incredible!
I have so much energy, passion and love for Pure Beauty.
I am so, so lucky!
Pure Beauty: You've got an amazing team of professionals behind you. How do they assist you in what you want to achieve for your clients?
Lauren: I am so lucky to team up with some amazing women that share the same passion and vision as I do with helping women and grow my business into a recognised brand.
Pure Beauty: Are there any challenges that come with your role at Pure Beauty?
Lauren: Because I love my job so much, I am never rushing out the door to get home.
Which is a great thing for my business, but does mean I miss out on quality time with my children.
Although I have dedicated “no work days”, where I’ll only do VIP group fun.
That’s not work right?
Pure Beauty: What would you say is your biggest accomplishment with Pure Beauty?
Lauren: When you walk into my studio, you will see a frame filled with polaroid photos of me with my clients.
The smiles on their faces says it all.
I am changing lives.
What more could I ask for?
Pure Beauty: What do you bring to the Pure Beauty team?
Lauren: ... Take photos? (Haha.)
I hope: leadership, friendship, guidance and a good kick up the butt if anyone talks negatively about themselves.
Pure Beauty: Who is the most influential woman in your life and why?
Lauren: To be very honest, I have never seen any one particular person as an inspiration.
To me, each person who comes into my life teaches me something; either about the world or myself.
I look at my beautiful friends or clients and when I hear their stories about what they have overcome and accomplishments, it literally brings me to tears - I am so incredibly proud of my clients.
These are the women who inspire me to do better and be better.
Pure Beauty: If you could send one message to all the females out there, what would it be?
Lauren: Point your toes and arch your back. (Haha!) But in all seriousness: Imagine waking up, looking in the mirror and actually being happy with what you see and more importantly, who you are.
A boudoir experience is far more about the mind than it is about the body. My clients leave happy, empowered and uplifted without even seeing the final images.
You are worthy.
You deserve to do this for yourself.
Special thank you to my girl El at Inner Soul Photography for these images
Elite Ambassador Vee - My Personal Journey with Congenital Breast Asymmetry | Mildura Intimate Boudoir Portraits
Elite Ambassador Vee - My Personal Journey with Congenital Breast Asymmetry | Mildura Intimate Boudoir Portraits
Never, in her wildest dreams, did Vee picture herself wearing lingerie for a Boudoir Photography Shoot, let alone become an Elite Brand Ambassador for Pure Beauty Photography. Vee shares with us her very personal story about Congenital Breast Asymmetry and envelops us in her emotional and powerful journey to loving and embracing her body.
Growing up, I was always a happy kid, with really supportive parents and siblings.
As I started high school, I struggled with Breast Development and I spoke to my mum about it. I had always struggled with bras, both padded & not. My mum was amazing, and always had me professionally fitted. When we went shopping it was my biggest insecurity, I developed on my right side - around a B cup, but was flat chested on my left side. I was always assured by the women whom fitted me "It’s okay, it’s normal, everyone has different sized breasts.” That helped to a degree at the time, but my insecurities became worse as I was getting older. Girls around me, were a lot more developed… but I was still the same...
I was 18 when I went back to my GP. I had waited to see if I would develop, but there was no change at all.
I didn’t feel right about it
My GP referred me to a Specialist in Breast Surgery, who told me I had Congenital Breast Asymmetry - I was born that way and it wouldn’t have developed naturally.
It was an emotional rollercoaster that day, but my Specialist advised surgery was available. I would have two implants, one larger than the other, to make them the same size. Unfortunately the price of the surgery was extremely expensive, but was offered to go on a waiting list. It was a relief knowing that there was help available.
Some people think it's silly, but being at my age and not being able to fit in a bra was a massive struggle. I would look at my body every day in absolute disgust and hatred.
I travelled to Melbourne many times, meeting my Surgeon and hoping a date would be confirmed. Every time I went, “We still don’t have a date for you”, it became harder and harder.
The travel, appointment and returning the same day was so difficult. I was tired - physically and emotionally, but was lucky that I had such a great support network from family and my boyfriend, who all flew with me at individual times. My Surgeon was so lovely, and she helped me understand the procedure, the side effects if the surgery happened, the bonuses and what I would have to do post surgery. But every time I went, there were tears.
I was becoming a woman and constantly covering or hiding myself.
At my final appointment (I didn’t realise it would be my last), they said they didn’t have a date, and I could still be waiting for a really long time. I cried so much, but my Surgeon was amazing - very comforting and understanding. I called mum and told her that they still had no news - we both cried a lot.
A few months later, I received a call from the hospital and was told my surgery would be in 2 weeks if I could attend! I was in shock! I cried and had to ask several times if she was serious! She assured me she definitely was.
I had to get a mammogram and ultrasounds before my surgery. I called mum and told her the news, we both couldn’t stop crying! I called my dad and my boyfriend, and they were so happy for me. I told work that I finally got my appointment, and they gave me all the leave I needed for the surgery and recovery.
The lead up was so exciting and it also made me extremely anxious, but FINALLY it was happening.
It was the day of the surgery. I checked in and waited for an hour before seeing the nurses and doctors. I cried a lot due to my nerves and the “unknown”. Being knocked out scared the hell out of me, and having waited 4 whole years for this, all culminated to this moment - TODAY WAS MY DAY!
Before I knew it was in the hospital bed, in my gown and being dotted and lined ready for the dissection (well, that’s what it looked like to me at least!). I met my Surgeon once again, and she comforted me and told me it was going to be okay. I met the other staff for the surgery and they were all so amazing, I couldn’t have been left in better hands.
BAM! I was asleep and all of a sudden it was done. A doctor from the surgery rolled me out, and as I was waking up he said he had called my mum and my boyfriend to let them know that I was awake. Even though I was super out of it from all of the anesthetic, I was crying, I couldn’t believe after all this waiting it was over.
I was in the hospital for just under 24 hours, was looked after wonderfully by the staff and nurses. I went home the next morning and stayed with my family and mum. Later in the week, I was surprised by my Dad, sister and boyfriend a few days earlier than expecting them.
I had an amazing week, my recovery was incredible. I was booked in to see my Surgeon for a check up the following week, I gave her the biggest hug and she honestly changed my entire world. She fought so hard for me to get this surgery. If it wasn’t for her I may still be on that waiting list.
I want to thank my family, my amazing siblings and especially my parents for all the support and reassurance through the tears and stress and insecurities. My Surgeon, Dr Yvonne Chow - I couldn’t have picked a better Surgeon. My aunts for having me stay, and my beautiful friends.
I really hated my body beforehand, and I wish I hadn’t. Congenital Breast Asymmetry is a lot more common than even I realised. I am glad I went through it, and now, FINALLY after two years, am able to share what I went through.
I am now an Ambassador for a Boudoir Photographer! Never in my mind did I think I would pose for photos in lingerie! This surgery has given me so much more confidence and happiness I ever thought I’d be able to have. I’d be lying if I didn’t say some days I still look at myself, and if in a negative frame of mind, I will doubt myself. Then I look at myself again and smile, because I have come so far!
I still cover up a lot, I am generally a lot more comfortable, but I’m not afraid to wear something a little more revealing anymore.
If you have Congenital Breast Asymmetry, I am always happy to talk, or even if you suffer from body image issues, I am here to listen. See your GP and discuss it with them and ask for a referral to a Specialist. There is so much help out there.
Please don’t look at yourself in disgust like I did. You’re beautiful, and amazing
There is so much more I could write about this journey but it was crazy emotional.
Thank you for reading this, it was hard to write and share but I did it.
Love you all, Vee xx
Serena's Boudoir Photo Shoot | Mildura Intimate Portraiture
Serena has been a long time supporter of Pure Beauty, and has always been a big contributor to the VIP Group. She is always uplifting women with her beautiful comments, and submitting a Featured Blog for the Website. Serena was also one of the first ladies to start paying into her Boudie Bank for her Boudoir Shoot. So, when it was time for Serena's shoot, you can just imagine how excited I was, after so much anticipation! I can't wait to photograph this beauty again for her Ambassador Shoot....
Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session?
I did want to lose a tiny bit of weight from my tummy and legs, but then I didn't. But I didn't really worry about it today, I felt sexy and beautiful just the way I am.
What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session?
I don't know! I just sort of decided to go for it and figured the rest out later - Ha Ha!
I'm glad I did though!
Did I provide enough pre-session info?
How did you feel BEFORE your session?
So excited!!! My nerves kicked in a little bit right before I walked in, but they soon disappeared.
How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup?
Yes! I loved having my hair and makeup done. Thank you so much ladies x
How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS)
Lauren made me feel so comfortable, and easily gave me directions if I wasn't sure what to do with myself.
I love how she showed me what to do first, then I got into position. I was actually quite relaxed and just having so much fun. The poses were a little tricky, but they came out amazing on the camera.
Was the session different than you expected? If so, how?
I was much more relaxed then I thought i would be. It was fun, empowering and just seemed like I was hanging out with the girls, just getting my photos taken in underwear - Ha Ha!
How did you feel AFTER your session?
I felt excited,happy, wanting to do another one straight away! So sexy and empowered.
What was your favorite part?
The feeling you get when you're comfortable and totally in the moment.
What was your least favorite part?
My sore knees, and trying to balance in heels! Ha Ha!
Would you ever do another session?
Yes! Can I book another right now? lol
How did you feel when you saw your images?
The sneak peeks I've seen look incredible, and I couldn't believe it was me! I looked amazing!
Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session?
Definitely! I'm less worried about how big my butt is, or my legs. They look sexy from other angles! I'm happy with myself and I'm beautiful just the way I am.
Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session?
Don't worry about how you think your body looks so much. Push your insecurities aside and just have fun and enjoy yourselves. You will be amazed at how incredible your body looks from different angles through someone else's eyes.
We are always hating on ourselves and we don't need to. We are gorgeous, hot, sexy women!
Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know?
Start paying into your Boudie Bank! Book your session and just go and have heaps of fun in your underwear!
Trust me you'll love it! xx
Easy Entertaining | Platter It Up for your Boudoir Babes
I love entertaining, but I also love keeping things simple! So what is my best weapon, whilst still catering for a group of people with different tastes? Platters!
If you have ever been to a Pure Beauty Photography Information Night, you would have experienced one of my platters.
So here's a few tips and tricks for creating your own Platter de Resistance!!!
Start with several larger items and position them at the centre and ends of your platter
I purchased several large plastic platters (from Cheap as Chips of similar) for around $2 each. I also purchased a couple of smaller ones, for when it's just a small nibbles platter for two or three people. These are great because they are reusable, easily stacked away in my pantry, and can be used for a multitude of serving different foods!
I always purchase a few different types of cheeses and at least one dip. I try to cater to most people's tastes - not everyone is a fan of Blue Cheese or a Spicy Chilli Cheese! My usual suspects include Brie or Camembert, Tasty Cheese, a Herb or Mild Chilli Cream Cheese, and I like to mix it up with a Goats Cheese or something a little different. I chop and change which dip I buy too - no one wants the same thing over and over! Some of my favorites are Spicy Pumpkin, Beetroot Hommus or Pesto and Cashew chunky dip. I like a bit of colour!
I then place the dip in the middle of the platter, and then a cheese north, east, south and west of the dip. This works as a great starting point for placement of your other items. I tend to find that starting with the larger items, makes it easier to visualise where you want to place the rest of your items.
Don't be afraid to add meat to your platter - unless you are catering purely for vegetarians - the sky is the limit!! Again, I try to cater to everyone's taste! Not everyone likes Hot Salami or Spicy Twiggy Sticks! I like to add the traditional favorites, like Kabana and Twiggy Sticks, but love adding some Shaved Ham or Prosciutto and Salami.
Fruit goes with Cheese AND adds an element of something light to your Platter
Grapes are always a perfect addition to a cheese platter, but don't be scared to put on Strawberries, Cherry Tomatoes (yes, tomatoes are a fruit!) or Figs! Mix it up, you might really surprise yourself and your guests!
I love an Antipasto element, but remember to select wisely. For example, I love a Fetta stuffed Bell Pepper, but as these are bathing in Olive Oil, these are NOT suitable for a Pure Beauty Information Evening. Think about it......touching all these beautiful photos with oily and greasy fingers! Aggggghhhhhhh! (I can hear Lauren quietly dying inside as I wrote that!) So, I save my Antipasto additions for other events where beautiful and expensive photographs are not being touched!
Of course on a Cheese Platter you want to have crackers! I don't like to inundate my platter with crackers - I can always (and do) take another packet with me to add to the platter when the initial supply is running low. Remember your guests too - anyone gluten free, Keto??? An addition of crudites (carrot sticks, celery etc..) is a great option, or look for crackers that are gluten free.
And don't forget the Cheese Knives!!!
Don't just limit yourself to Cheese and Nibbles!
The possibilities are endless....Fruit platters are always amazing, and can offer so much fresh variety. Mix it up with the fruit and don't be scared of a fruit you haven't tried before! Dragonfruit is really pretty with its magenta skin and inner white flesh with little black seeds - whilst this doesn't have much taste, it makes a great palette cleanser to move on to the next fruit. I love it when exotic fruits are in season and I can play with the different shapes and tastes - fresh and ripe Starfruit is amazing and a beautiful addition to a platter (or a Punch! Proven recipes to follow in another blog!)
Again, start with the larger fruit and work your way down. I love breaking up the colours too where I can - mix it up, separating colours so you don't end up with a big block of orange or red, but don't be too hard on yourself if you have some of those colours together. Ensure your fruit is fresh and ripe! I can't stress this enough - there's nothing worse than taking a bite into rock hard and tasteless Honeydew Melon (which I personally find tasteless ALL the time, but I still put it on a platter because I know so many people enjoy it), or worse.....an overripe & mushy strawberry! And always, ALWAYS rinse your fruit under gently running cold water, and let it drain properly. You don't need a big puddle of water on your platter!
Remember a nice glass of wine is a fabulous accompaniment for a platter! But drink responsibly my Beauties!
My next platter is going to be a mixed dessert platter - think waffles, strawberries, chocolate dipping sauce etc... Now I only haven't attempted one so far because I'm really not a sweet tooth, I love my savories, BUT I can see the enjoyment so many people get from these (think of those yummy dessert platters from Royal Copenhagen or Bobby + Me!!)
They do put a smile on my face (before the sugar kicks in on the kids and I have to deal with the after effects!)
THERE’S no denying the world is facing extremely difficult times right now.
And no matter where you live, or what you do, it’s guaranteed to be impacting on you.
Pure Beauty tracked down an expert in the mental health field to gather some hints and tips for how you can adapt to life as we currently know it – and to reassure you, you are not alone.
Hello lovely ladies!
I hope you are all trying to stay safe in these difficult times.
I just want to put a trigger warning on this blog.
It will talk about COVID-19 (Coronavirus) that is gripping the country and some of the realities we may face.
Before I go any further, I will briefly introduce myself. I am a social worker who has worked in the mental health field for the past four and a half years. I predominantly work with children and adolescents who have experienced significant trauma, are at risk of harming themselves or others and have compromised mental health. This work often involves working with not only the young person but also their system that includes parents, carers and other professionals.
To protect myself and the families that I work with, I will remain anonymous and ask that if you do identify me, that you respect this privacy.
Anyway, back to the purpose of this blog - the words that we have heard so much about lately: COVID-19.
It’s consuming the television, social media and invading our homes with fear and anxiety.
I don’t know about you but I am:
A) Overloaded with information or misinformation
B) Worried about the impacts that COVID-19 may have on my own wellbeing
C) Wish there was something else on TV because I’m also sick of hearing about COVID-19 but not having any definitive answers.
I know this has certainly impacted on my wellbeing by not being able to attend the gym, catch up with family and friends that don’t live in my household and had a huge strain on my mental health.
I feel isolated, alone and have had a mixed range of emotions including sadness, anxiety, loneliness, uncertainty and boredom.
I imagine that many of you might be feeling some of these feelings too.
I expect that these will rise in the community the longer that the COVID-19 pandemic plays out.
I guess this leads me to also think about the bigger picture where I suspect that the prevalence of mental health symptoms such as anxiety, suicidal ideation, obsessive behaviours, disordered eating, low and irritable moods will increase for many.
There will be an increased exposure to family violence, potential loss of employment, neglect and trauma that could also amplify these symptoms.
With that being said, I just want to clarify that this DOES NOT mean you will end up with a mental illness or a diagnosis.
As much as I love Dr Google all of my googled symptoms correlate with an unfounded condition that has no medical grounding.
Please seek out professional help if the symptoms persist.
Having said this, I think it is so important to acknowledge that we are all in this together and it is so important that we look after ourselves (and no, this does not mean go stockpile 1000 bags of pasta, toilet paper and other perishable foods).
This prompts me to think about a podcast I have recently listened to by Brene` Brown - Unlocking Us.
She quotes that we must all experience a level of stress and vulnerability as this is what helps us learn and grow which is so true.
If we don’t experience this, we only do things that we are already good at and we stop growing and in a sense stop “living”.
Brene` talks about having a “Fucking First Time” (FFT) and in particular a FFT about a pandemic.
We all have FFT’s daily but it is important to think about the steps:
• Normalise it (acknowledge our feelings and feel them)
• Put it into perspective (it is ok to feel a particular emotion)
• Reality check expectations. For example: I feel lonely as I am living alone. I feel a deep unease in my tummy and feel tired and unmotivated (normalise it). I am normally a social person who is outgoing and busy. It feels weird that I cannot have physical contact with another person (put it into perspective). I know though that I am safe and to protect my safety I must stay in isolation. This does not mean I am alone as I can reach out to person a, b, c (reality checking expectations).
Writing down our FFTs can be helpful once they have been identified. If you like podcasts I highly recommend the first episode.
This leads me to think again about us.
What are we meant to do in this time to help feel a sense of control, promote/uphold our social and emotional wellbeing and get through this isolation period?
Here are some strategies that might be useful:
• Check in with yourself.
I cannot stress this enough.
Recognise and acknowledge how you are feeling and think.
It is okay to feel all kinds of emotions/feelings - there is no such thing and good/bad feeling.
Notice where you might experience or not experience this in your body.
Notice do I need help with this emotion/thought, who is my trusted person to lean on if I do need help and how can I communicate this that person/s?
Sometimes verbalising this can be difficult so is there another way eg. Letter writing, having a visual mood chart in your home, keeping a journal, sending a picture, dancing it out, etc.
• Check your own pulse before helping someone else.
You are unfortunately not going to be helpful if you are feeling out of control yourself.
Acknowledge this with the person; “I can see you are feeling overwhelmed at the moment. I am feeling this too.” Is there something you can do together to calm down?
• Unplug from social media and limit your time spent listening or watching news related to COVID-19.
• When you do need information get it from a reliable source such as:
o The Department of Human Services
o COVID-19 app
o ABC Mildura Swan Hill (I love that they summarise the information clearly without having to listen to a full Parliamentary Speech).
• Try to keep a routine as much as possible.
Have regular wake and sleep times, regular meal breaks, regular check in with family and friends via the phone or video calling technology;, home exercise or a gentle walk or yoga.
• If you are working from home have make sure you take regular breaks and have a designed workstation set up that you only visit during work hours.
If you are like me, it may be tempting to push these hours, but it is important to not muddle our work routine into your home routine.
• Ground yourself using the five senses:
o What are five things that you can see.
o Four things that you can touch.
o Three things you can hear.
o Two things you can smell.
o One thing that you can taste.
Other grounding techniques can be found online also via a Google search.
• Engage in self-care multiple times per day:
o Regular meditation. Apps such as Calm, Smiley Minds or Headspace can be helpful. YouTube also has many guided meditations that will calm and put you to sleep.
o Making yourself a nice drink. As much as I love a good glass/s of wine, beer or Bacardi be mindful of your alcohol intake as this can be a depressant.
o Make yourself a nice food treat.
o Talking a nice bath or shower.
o Have fun with your fur babies or children.
o Play a game with the family/friends in the household or use an app forum.
o Put on a movie.
o Keep a happy journal.
o Read a book.
o Listen to a podcast (I love Happy to Crappy).
o Quiet time either by yourself (if you need a break from the kids/others) or with others.
• Create daily/weekly goals of what you would like to achieve during this time.
Make sure they are realistic and achievable.
If they are bigger goals think about how you might break these down. It is handy to display these and tick them off as you achieve them.
Be mindful about keeping yourself too busy.
I know I am bad for this and have been caught out already.
Having a task can be helpful as a distraction but being too busy can cause feeling overwhelmed.
Any of these strategies can be used whether you are alone or have a household with others.
They will assist you be in the present and focus on the here and now as we unfortunately have to sit with the distress that we cannot predict the future and have to live day by day until this pandemic ends.
If all else fails, I think it’s time to bring out our superwoman pose.
Stand up nice and tall in front of a mirror, put that sassy hand on your hip, stick out that chest and boobs, roll those shoulders back, slightly turn your chin up and point that nose as though you are doing a “resting bitch face”, raise your loose hand up towards the sky, take a deep breath and I bet you will have difficulty trying not to smile.
After all that you will know how powerful and beautiful you are because you have GOT THIS GIRL!
Here are some resources you can access if you need further support or this blog has raised:
- Lifeline - 13 11 14 or https://www.lifeline.org.au/get-help/online-services/crisis-chat
- Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636 or https://www.beyondblue.org.au/
- Headspace or eheadspace (if under 25) - 5021 2400 or https://headspace.org.au/covid-19/
- Workplace Employment Assistance Program (EAP) as per your workplace.
- Telehealth options to talk to a private counsellor via a Mental Health Care Plan. You will need to contact your GP to organise this.
- 1800RESPECT- 1800 737 732.
- The Orange Door - 1800 290 943.
- Mallee Sexual Assault Unit – Mallee Domestic Violence Unit.
If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide, please call Mental Health Services at any time on 5022 3500.
Stay safe lovely ladies!
Much love to you all,
Your friendly social worker
Xo (or an elbow bump given the situation)
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Mildura resident and Photographer, Lauren Southwell launched Pure Beauty in late June, 2018 & is committed to helping woman feel beautiful, sexy and empowered through the art of Boudoir Photography.