Elite Ambassador Vee - My Personal Journey with Congenital Breast Asymmetry | Mildura Intimate Boudoir PortraitsNever, in her wildest dreams, did Vee picture herself wearing lingerie for a Boudoir Photography Shoot, let alone become an Elite Brand Ambassador for Pure Beauty Photography. Vee shares with us her very personal story about Congenital Breast Asymmetry and envelops us in her emotional and powerful journey to loving and embracing her body. Growing up, I was always a happy kid, with really supportive parents and siblings. As I started high school, I struggled with Breast Development and I spoke to my mum about it. I had always struggled with bras, both padded & not. My mum was amazing, and always had me professionally fitted. When we went shopping it was my biggest insecurity, I developed on my right side - around a B cup, but was flat chested on my left side. I was always assured by the women whom fitted me "It’s okay, it’s normal, everyone has different sized breasts.” That helped to a degree at the time, but my insecurities became worse as I was getting older. Girls around me, were a lot more developed… but I was still the same... I was 18 when I went back to my GP. I had waited to see if I would develop, but there was no change at all. I didn’t feel right about it My GP referred me to a Specialist in Breast Surgery, who told me I had Congenital Breast Asymmetry - I was born that way and it wouldn’t have developed naturally. It was an emotional rollercoaster that day, but my Specialist advised surgery was available. I would have two implants, one larger than the other, to make them the same size. Unfortunately the price of the surgery was extremely expensive, but was offered to go on a waiting list. It was a relief knowing that there was help available. Some people think it's silly, but being at my age and not being able to fit in a bra was a massive struggle. I would look at my body every day in absolute disgust and hatred. I travelled to Melbourne many times, meeting my Surgeon and hoping a date would be confirmed. Every time I went, “We still don’t have a date for you”, it became harder and harder. The travel, appointment and returning the same day was so difficult. I was tired - physically and emotionally, but was lucky that I had such a great support network from family and my boyfriend, who all flew with me at individual times. My Surgeon was so lovely, and she helped me understand the procedure, the side effects if the surgery happened, the bonuses and what I would have to do post surgery. But every time I went, there were tears. I was becoming a woman and constantly covering or hiding myself. At my final appointment (I didn’t realise it would be my last), they said they didn’t have a date, and I could still be waiting for a really long time. I cried so much, but my Surgeon was amazing - very comforting and understanding. I called mum and told her that they still had no news - we both cried a lot. A few months later, I received a call from the hospital and was told my surgery would be in 2 weeks if I could attend! I was in shock! I cried and had to ask several times if she was serious! She assured me she definitely was. I had to get a mammogram and ultrasounds before my surgery. I called mum and told her the news, we both couldn’t stop crying! I called my dad and my boyfriend, and they were so happy for me. I told work that I finally got my appointment, and they gave me all the leave I needed for the surgery and recovery. The lead up was so exciting and it also made me extremely anxious, but FINALLY it was happening. It was the day of the surgery. I checked in and waited for an hour before seeing the nurses and doctors. I cried a lot due to my nerves and the “unknown”. Being knocked out scared the hell out of me, and having waited 4 whole years for this, all culminated to this moment - TODAY WAS MY DAY! Before I knew it was in the hospital bed, in my gown and being dotted and lined ready for the dissection (well, that’s what it looked like to me at least!). I met my Surgeon once again, and she comforted me and told me it was going to be okay. I met the other staff for the surgery and they were all so amazing, I couldn’t have been left in better hands. BAM! I was asleep and all of a sudden it was done. A doctor from the surgery rolled me out, and as I was waking up he said he had called my mum and my boyfriend to let them know that I was awake. Even though I was super out of it from all of the anesthetic, I was crying, I couldn’t believe after all this waiting it was over. I was in the hospital for just under 24 hours, was looked after wonderfully by the staff and nurses. I went home the next morning and stayed with my family and mum. Later in the week, I was surprised by my Dad, sister and boyfriend a few days earlier than expecting them. I had an amazing week, my recovery was incredible. I was booked in to see my Surgeon for a check up the following week, I gave her the biggest hug and she honestly changed my entire world. She fought so hard for me to get this surgery. If it wasn’t for her I may still be on that waiting list. I want to thank my family, my amazing siblings and especially my parents for all the support and reassurance through the tears and stress and insecurities. My Surgeon, Dr Yvonne Chow - I couldn’t have picked a better Surgeon. My aunts for having me stay, and my beautiful friends.
I really hated my body beforehand, and I wish I hadn’t. Congenital Breast Asymmetry is a lot more common than even I realised. I am glad I went through it, and now, FINALLY after two years, am able to share what I went through. I am now an Ambassador for a Boudoir Photographer! Never in my mind did I think I would pose for photos in lingerie! This surgery has given me so much more confidence and happiness I ever thought I’d be able to have. I’d be lying if I didn’t say some days I still look at myself, and if in a negative frame of mind, I will doubt myself. Then I look at myself again and smile, because I have come so far! I still cover up a lot, I am generally a lot more comfortable, but I’m not afraid to wear something a little more revealing anymore. If you have Congenital Breast Asymmetry, I am always happy to talk, or even if you suffer from body image issues, I am here to listen. See your GP and discuss it with them and ask for a referral to a Specialist. There is so much help out there. Please don’t look at yourself in disgust like I did. You’re beautiful, and amazing There is so much more I could write about this journey but it was crazy emotional. Thank you for reading this, it was hard to write and share but I did it. Love you all, Vee xx
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Serena's Boudoir Photo Shoot | Mildura Intimate PortraitureSerena has been a long time supporter of Pure Beauty, and has always been a big contributor to the VIP Group. She is always uplifting women with her beautiful comments, and submitting a Featured Blog for the Website. Serena was also one of the first ladies to start paying into her Boudie Bank for her Boudoir Shoot. So, when it was time for Serena's shoot, you can just imagine how excited I was, after so much anticipation! I can't wait to photograph this beauty again for her Ambassador Shoot.... Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? I did want to lose a tiny bit of weight from my tummy and legs, but then I didn't. But I didn't really worry about it today, I felt sexy and beautiful just the way I am. What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? I don't know! I just sort of decided to go for it and figured the rest out later - Ha Ha! I'm glad I did though! Did I provide enough pre-session info? Absolutely How did you feel BEFORE your session? So excited!!! My nerves kicked in a little bit right before I walked in, but they soon disappeared. How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? Yes! I loved having my hair and makeup done. Thank you so much ladies x How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) Lauren made me feel so comfortable, and easily gave me directions if I wasn't sure what to do with myself. I love how she showed me what to do first, then I got into position. I was actually quite relaxed and just having so much fun. The poses were a little tricky, but they came out amazing on the camera. Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? I was much more relaxed then I thought i would be. It was fun, empowering and just seemed like I was hanging out with the girls, just getting my photos taken in underwear - Ha Ha! How did you feel AFTER your session? I felt excited,happy, wanting to do another one straight away! So sexy and empowered. What was your favorite part? The feeling you get when you're comfortable and totally in the moment. What was your least favorite part? My sore knees, and trying to balance in heels! Ha Ha! Would you ever do another session? Yes! Can I book another right now? lol How did you feel when you saw your images? The sneak peeks I've seen look incredible, and I couldn't believe it was me! I looked amazing! Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? Definitely! I'm less worried about how big my butt is, or my legs. They look sexy from other angles! I'm happy with myself and I'm beautiful just the way I am. Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session?
Don't worry about how you think your body looks so much. Push your insecurities aside and just have fun and enjoy yourselves. You will be amazed at how incredible your body looks from different angles through someone else's eyes. We are always hating on ourselves and we don't need to. We are gorgeous, hot, sexy women! Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? Start paying into your Boudie Bank! Book your session and just go and have heaps of fun in your underwear! Trust me you'll love it! xx Easy Entertaining | Platter It Up for your Boudoir BabesI love entertaining, but I also love keeping things simple! So what is my best weapon, whilst still catering for a group of people with different tastes? Platters! If you have ever been to a Pure Beauty Photography Information Night, you would have experienced one of my platters. So here's a few tips and tricks for creating your own Platter de Resistance!!! Start with several larger items and position them at the centre and ends of your platter I purchased several large plastic platters (from Cheap as Chips of similar) for around $2 each. I also purchased a couple of smaller ones, for when it's just a small nibbles platter for two or three people. These are great because they are reusable, easily stacked away in my pantry, and can be used for a multitude of serving different foods! I always purchase a few different types of cheeses and at least one dip. I try to cater to most people's tastes - not everyone is a fan of Blue Cheese or a Spicy Chilli Cheese! My usual suspects include Brie or Camembert, Tasty Cheese, a Herb or Mild Chilli Cream Cheese, and I like to mix it up with a Goats Cheese or something a little different. I chop and change which dip I buy too - no one wants the same thing over and over! Some of my favorites are Spicy Pumpkin, Beetroot Hommus or Pesto and Cashew chunky dip. I like a bit of colour! I then place the dip in the middle of the platter, and then a cheese north, east, south and west of the dip. This works as a great starting point for placement of your other items. I tend to find that starting with the larger items, makes it easier to visualise where you want to place the rest of your items. Don't be afraid to add meat to your platter - unless you are catering purely for vegetarians - the sky is the limit!! Again, I try to cater to everyone's taste! Not everyone likes Hot Salami or Spicy Twiggy Sticks! I like to add the traditional favorites, like Kabana and Twiggy Sticks, but love adding some Shaved Ham or Prosciutto and Salami. Fruit goes with Cheese AND adds an element of something light to your Platter Grapes are always a perfect addition to a cheese platter, but don't be scared to put on Strawberries, Cherry Tomatoes (yes, tomatoes are a fruit!) or Figs! Mix it up, you might really surprise yourself and your guests! I love an Antipasto element, but remember to select wisely. For example, I love a Fetta stuffed Bell Pepper, but as these are bathing in Olive Oil, these are NOT suitable for a Pure Beauty Information Evening. Think about it......touching all these beautiful photos with oily and greasy fingers! Aggggghhhhhhh! (I can hear Lauren quietly dying inside as I wrote that!) So, I save my Antipasto additions for other events where beautiful and expensive photographs are not being touched! Of course on a Cheese Platter you want to have crackers! I don't like to inundate my platter with crackers - I can always (and do) take another packet with me to add to the platter when the initial supply is running low. Remember your guests too - anyone gluten free, Keto??? An addition of crudites (carrot sticks, celery etc..) is a great option, or look for crackers that are gluten free. And don't forget the Cheese Knives!!! Don't just limit yourself to Cheese and Nibbles! The possibilities are endless....Fruit platters are always amazing, and can offer so much fresh variety. Mix it up with the fruit and don't be scared of a fruit you haven't tried before! Dragonfruit is really pretty with its magenta skin and inner white flesh with little black seeds - whilst this doesn't have much taste, it makes a great palette cleanser to move on to the next fruit. I love it when exotic fruits are in season and I can play with the different shapes and tastes - fresh and ripe Starfruit is amazing and a beautiful addition to a platter (or a Punch! Proven recipes to follow in another blog!) Again, start with the larger fruit and work your way down. I love breaking up the colours too where I can - mix it up, separating colours so you don't end up with a big block of orange or red, but don't be too hard on yourself if you have some of those colours together. Ensure your fruit is fresh and ripe! I can't stress this enough - there's nothing worse than taking a bite into rock hard and tasteless Honeydew Melon (which I personally find tasteless ALL the time, but I still put it on a platter because I know so many people enjoy it), or worse.....an overripe & mushy strawberry! And always, ALWAYS rinse your fruit under gently running cold water, and let it drain properly. You don't need a big puddle of water on your platter! Remember a nice glass of wine is a fabulous accompaniment for a platter! But drink responsibly my Beauties! My next platter is going to be a mixed dessert platter - think waffles, strawberries, chocolate dipping sauce etc... Now I only haven't attempted one so far because I'm really not a sweet tooth, I love my savories, BUT I can see the enjoyment so many people get from these (think of those yummy dessert platters from Royal Copenhagen or Bobby + Me!!) They do put a smile on my face (before the sugar kicks in on the kids and I have to deal with the after effects!) Kim xo THERE’S no denying the world is facing extremely difficult times right now. And no matter where you live, or what you do, it’s guaranteed to be impacting on you. Pure Beauty tracked down an expert in the mental health field to gather some hints and tips for how you can adapt to life as we currently know it – and to reassure you, you are not alone. Hello lovely ladies! I hope you are all trying to stay safe in these difficult times. I just want to put a trigger warning on this blog. It will talk about COVID-19 (Coronavirus) that is gripping the country and some of the realities we may face. Before I go any further, I will briefly introduce myself. I am a social worker who has worked in the mental health field for the past four and a half years. I predominantly work with children and adolescents who have experienced significant trauma, are at risk of harming themselves or others and have compromised mental health. This work often involves working with not only the young person but also their system that includes parents, carers and other professionals. To protect myself and the families that I work with, I will remain anonymous and ask that if you do identify me, that you respect this privacy. Anyway, back to the purpose of this blog - the words that we have heard so much about lately: COVID-19. It’s consuming the television, social media and invading our homes with fear and anxiety. I don’t know about you but I am: A) Overloaded with information or misinformation B) Worried about the impacts that COVID-19 may have on my own wellbeing C) Wish there was something else on TV because I’m also sick of hearing about COVID-19 but not having any definitive answers. I know this has certainly impacted on my wellbeing by not being able to attend the gym, catch up with family and friends that don’t live in my household and had a huge strain on my mental health. I feel isolated, alone and have had a mixed range of emotions including sadness, anxiety, loneliness, uncertainty and boredom. I imagine that many of you might be feeling some of these feelings too. I expect that these will rise in the community the longer that the COVID-19 pandemic plays out. I guess this leads me to also think about the bigger picture where I suspect that the prevalence of mental health symptoms such as anxiety, suicidal ideation, obsessive behaviours, disordered eating, low and irritable moods will increase for many. There will be an increased exposure to family violence, potential loss of employment, neglect and trauma that could also amplify these symptoms. With that being said, I just want to clarify that this DOES NOT mean you will end up with a mental illness or a diagnosis. As much as I love Dr Google all of my googled symptoms correlate with an unfounded condition that has no medical grounding. Please seek out professional help if the symptoms persist. Having said this, I think it is so important to acknowledge that we are all in this together and it is so important that we look after ourselves (and no, this does not mean go stockpile 1000 bags of pasta, toilet paper and other perishable foods). This prompts me to think about a podcast I have recently listened to by Brene` Brown - Unlocking Us. She quotes that we must all experience a level of stress and vulnerability as this is what helps us learn and grow which is so true. If we don’t experience this, we only do things that we are already good at and we stop growing and in a sense stop “living”. Brene` talks about having a “Fucking First Time” (FFT) and in particular a FFT about a pandemic. We all have FFT’s daily but it is important to think about the steps: • Normalise it (acknowledge our feelings and feel them) • Put it into perspective (it is ok to feel a particular emotion) • Reality check expectations. For example: I feel lonely as I am living alone. I feel a deep unease in my tummy and feel tired and unmotivated (normalise it). I am normally a social person who is outgoing and busy. It feels weird that I cannot have physical contact with another person (put it into perspective). I know though that I am safe and to protect my safety I must stay in isolation. This does not mean I am alone as I can reach out to person a, b, c (reality checking expectations). Writing down our FFTs can be helpful once they have been identified. If you like podcasts I highly recommend the first episode. This leads me to think again about us. What are we meant to do in this time to help feel a sense of control, promote/uphold our social and emotional wellbeing and get through this isolation period? Here are some strategies that might be useful: • Check in with yourself. I cannot stress this enough. Recognise and acknowledge how you are feeling and think. It is okay to feel all kinds of emotions/feelings - there is no such thing and good/bad feeling. Notice where you might experience or not experience this in your body. Notice do I need help with this emotion/thought, who is my trusted person to lean on if I do need help and how can I communicate this that person/s? Sometimes verbalising this can be difficult so is there another way eg. Letter writing, having a visual mood chart in your home, keeping a journal, sending a picture, dancing it out, etc. • Check your own pulse before helping someone else. You are unfortunately not going to be helpful if you are feeling out of control yourself. Acknowledge this with the person; “I can see you are feeling overwhelmed at the moment. I am feeling this too.” Is there something you can do together to calm down? • Unplug from social media and limit your time spent listening or watching news related to COVID-19. • When you do need information get it from a reliable source such as: o The Department of Human Services o COVID-19 app o ABC Mildura Swan Hill (I love that they summarise the information clearly without having to listen to a full Parliamentary Speech). • Try to keep a routine as much as possible. Have regular wake and sleep times, regular meal breaks, regular check in with family and friends via the phone or video calling technology;, home exercise or a gentle walk or yoga. • If you are working from home have make sure you take regular breaks and have a designed workstation set up that you only visit during work hours. If you are like me, it may be tempting to push these hours, but it is important to not muddle our work routine into your home routine. • Ground yourself using the five senses: o What are five things that you can see. o Four things that you can touch. o Three things you can hear. o Two things you can smell. o One thing that you can taste. Other grounding techniques can be found online also via a Google search. • Engage in self-care multiple times per day: o Regular meditation. Apps such as Calm, Smiley Minds or Headspace can be helpful. YouTube also has many guided meditations that will calm and put you to sleep. o Making yourself a nice drink. As much as I love a good glass/s of wine, beer or Bacardi be mindful of your alcohol intake as this can be a depressant. o Make yourself a nice food treat. o Talking a nice bath or shower. o Have fun with your fur babies or children. o Play a game with the family/friends in the household or use an app forum. o Put on a movie. o Keep a happy journal. o Read a book. o Listen to a podcast (I love Happy to Crappy). o Quiet time either by yourself (if you need a break from the kids/others) or with others. • Create daily/weekly goals of what you would like to achieve during this time. Make sure they are realistic and achievable. If they are bigger goals think about how you might break these down. It is handy to display these and tick them off as you achieve them. Be mindful about keeping yourself too busy. I know I am bad for this and have been caught out already. Having a task can be helpful as a distraction but being too busy can cause feeling overwhelmed. Any of these strategies can be used whether you are alone or have a household with others. They will assist you be in the present and focus on the here and now as we unfortunately have to sit with the distress that we cannot predict the future and have to live day by day until this pandemic ends. If all else fails, I think it’s time to bring out our superwoman pose. That’s right! Stand up nice and tall in front of a mirror, put that sassy hand on your hip, stick out that chest and boobs, roll those shoulders back, slightly turn your chin up and point that nose as though you are doing a “resting bitch face”, raise your loose hand up towards the sky, take a deep breath and I bet you will have difficulty trying not to smile. After all that you will know how powerful and beautiful you are because you have GOT THIS GIRL! Here are some resources you can access if you need further support or this blog has raised: - Lifeline - 13 11 14 or https://www.lifeline.org.au/get-help/online-services/crisis-chat - Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636 or https://www.beyondblue.org.au/ - Headspace or eheadspace (if under 25) - 5021 2400 or https://headspace.org.au/covid-19/ - Workplace Employment Assistance Program (EAP) as per your workplace. - Telehealth options to talk to a private counsellor via a Mental Health Care Plan. You will need to contact your GP to organise this. - 1800RESPECT- 1800 737 732. - The Orange Door - 1800 290 943. - Mallee Sexual Assault Unit – Mallee Domestic Violence Unit. If you are experiencing thoughts of suicide, please call Mental Health Services at any time on 5022 3500. Stay safe lovely ladies! Much love to you all, Your friendly social worker Xo (or an elbow bump given the situation) Laura's Boudoir Photography Shoot | Mildura Intimate PhotographySometimes, we lose ourselves in our everyday roles - worker, student, business owner, mum... So I was thrilled when 29 year old beauty, Laura took the Leap of Faith, and booked her shoot! This brunette babe totally nailed her session, and realised that she is so much more than "just" Mum, or "Student", and truly embraced the skin she is in. Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? Overcoming the whole "Mum Body". What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? The empowering messages Lauren wrote in posts I've seen, and turning 30, I decided it was time for me. Did I provide enough pre-session info? Yes. Everything was all so helpful, as I didn't know where to start. How did you feel BEFORE your session? Excited! How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? Loved them all! Vee herself was amazing! How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) Great! The instructions and demonstrations were all so helpful, as I had no idea beforehand! Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? No. It was everything I expected and more! I was made to feel so comfortable in my own skin. How did you feel AFTER your session? Amaze balls! What was your favorite part? The laughs - Ha Ha! - and the choice of lingerie from the wardrobe! What was your least favorite part? Ha Ha! - The love heart stickers rolling into a ball! Epic Fail on my behalf! Would you ever do another session? Yes! I can't wait to! How did you feel when you saw your images? Amazed at how good I can look, and I am not "just" a mum! Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? Yes! I am so much more happier within myself, and am an empowering woman, and can do anything I put my mind to! Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session?
Do it! Take that leap of faith! You'll have no regrets, and walk out of your session walking on Cloud 9! Lauren and the Team are amazing, and you'll love the skin your in! Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? I can't wait to see the results and book the next one! Danni's Boudoir Experience | Mildura Portrait PhotographerStunning Bombshell Danni signed up for her Boudoir Photo Shoot as a Spur of the Moment decision. And aren't we the lucky ones! Danni embraced the full experience and lapped up the pampering before her shoot, having her hair and makeup done by the Team, which also helped ease any nerves she was experiencing before. Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? Nervous and excited What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? Last minute spur of the moment, just went for it Did I provide enough pre-session info? Yes How did you feel BEFORE your session? Excited How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? Yes yes yes How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) Amazing experience, very comfortable and relaxed. I had lots of fun Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? No How did you feel AFTER your session? Beautiful again What was your favorite part? Can't choose one What was your least favorite part? Don't have one Would you ever do another session? Yes How did you feel when you saw your images? Relaxed, happy and beautiful Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? Yes I feel beautiful again and have my confidence back Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session? Do it , it is the best experience you can reward yourself with and so fun
Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? Everyone is beautiful all shapes and sizes. Embrace your unique beauty, you are beautiful. Sam and Britnie's Couples Shoot - Mildura Boudoir PhotographerI was so excited when Sam and Britnie applied for the Couples Model Call, as I love having some diversity, and LOVED the opportunity of shooting a same sex couple. I couldn't be happier with the amazing images we got from this Boudoir Shoot, and the girls were just incredible and so much fun! I think they completely nailed their session too! What do you think? Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? What to wear! I’m either naked or in gym clothes! What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? Because it was a couple shoot. I’d do anything to spend quality time with Britnie. Did I provide enough pre-session info? Absolutely How did you feel BEFORE your session? Pretty excited How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? Absolutely How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) Bring a dressing gown and snacks haha! So much fun. I enjoyed it a lot. Having Vee there, for not only make up touch ups, but for an extra person to chat to and feel more relaxed. Lauren does a wonderful job of making you feel great. Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? The poses were tricky. Holding them was tough. I went In with no expectations and for the experience. How did you feel AFTER your session? On a high and feeling Very beautiful in my own skin. What was your favorite part? Being intimate with Britnie on a different level. What was your least favorite part? Nothing Would you ever do another session? Most definitely How did you feel when you saw your images? Mixed feelings of wanting to share them with everyone, and at the same time, "Do I want to be judged by others?", but thought, "What the hell! We look fantastic!" Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? To stop nit picking at my body and love it what it is. Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session? To do it. You have so much to gain from doing the shoot. Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? Lauren is amazing at what she does!! You are in great hands. Stacy's Boudoir Photography Shoot | Mildura Intimate PortraitureI was so thrilled when the sassy Stacy signed up for her boudoir session! This gorgeous vixen was apprehensive at first when she enquired, but her confidence built, and Oh Boy did it build during her photo shoot! So much so, that this beauty left the Studio feeling empowered, confident and sexy. Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? I had low self esteem What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? Willpower helped, and talking to Lauren Did I provide enough pre-session info? Definitely. I did love getting all the emails and messages How did you feel BEFORE your session? Nervous and excited How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? I loved working with your Team, and loved my hair and make up How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) Empowering, Energetic and Exciting! Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? It was even better then what I expected! How did you feel AFTER your session? Empowered and Beautiful What was your favorite part? All of it! I loved it all! What was your least favorite part? I don't have one Would you ever do another session? Hell Yeah!!!! How did you feel when you saw your images? I felt sexy and beautiful Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? It definitely did! It has definitely boosted my self esteem Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session? Do it! It's the best experience you will have! Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? It's definitely helped me with my anxiety and low self-esteem. I loved the whole experience! What a Boudoir Photo Shoot has done for our Elite Brand Ambassador Kim | Mildura Intimate Portrait PhotographySo much has changed for me since I did my very first Boudoir Shoot with Pure Beauty Photography in July 2018. I was so prepared for this shoot, I had all my inspiration and ideas saved in Pinterest, I’d made a playlist (that we forgot to play!), I had lingerie galore, jewellery and shoes packed. I had a facial, massage and body scrub all done a few days before…..I was so excited! The shoot was incredible and I loved every image that Lauren took. Everything was amazing! This shoot celebrated my body, me as a person, and for the first time, I truly felt so sexy, and fully embraced those parts of my body I was previously negatively focused on. I received my amazing products, and I was so in love with them, the quality, the products themselves, the finished product and all for me, and of me! Those amazing feelings from my shoot were so present, and I really felt that I could never come down from feeling this confident and downright beautiful! Lauren had her first Brand Ambassador search, and I was so proud and elated that she chose me to be her Elite Brand Ambassador! Life truly could not get better! Then my world changed….. My twelve year marriage broke down. Whilst we had not been in a great place for some time, it still came as a shock, and I had a lot of adjusting to do to get used to this new life. This was not where I planned to be… I met up with the incredible Brand Ambassadors and Lauren for a catch up and get together, unfortunately this was on the day my husband was moving out. I put on my big girl pants and met the ladies, and tried really hard to have a good time and not think about what was happening at home, and worrying about how my kids were coping with this big change. I felt broken and hopeless for myself, but felt this ten times more for my kids. I really struggled to be involved. We planned our Ambassador Group Shoot. While I was so excited for this, and we all know that I love getting called in to prance around in my underwear in front of the camera, I really struggled at the shoot. Yes, I knew poses and could understand and follow Lauren’s direction, but my life was turned upside down and I wasn’t me. The urge to break down in tears the whole time was overwhelming, and it was a struggle to try to keep upbeat. The other girls were a mixture of excited and nervous, and I didn’t want to bring anyone down. Only Lauren and I knew what I was dealing with. Some of those images from this shoot, have become iconic now. Photographs that I could only see sadness in my eyes, everyone else could see strength. One of the perks of being an Ambassador is having an Ambassador Shoot, but my head nor heart were anywhere near being in the right place for this. Poor Lauren was dying to get me in the Studio, but I kept delaying it. I just was not myself. That confidence and self assuredness had taken a big hit. I knew I needed to be feeling better about myself before I could do a full shoot. I was called in by Lauren often, for mini shoots and to test out the ambience of the Studio or new products. Of course I happily obliged, I could see the benefit in doing each and every one. My confidence was slowly returning BUT I still wasn’t ready to commit to a full shoot. I spoke with the other Ambassadors, and told them what I was going through and that hopefully one day soon, they would actually get to meet the “real” me. Although I kept this very low key, the Pure Beauty VIP Group helped me in so many ways to get through the tough times. It was lovely to know I had the support from so many wonderful women - many whom I had never met - and they always had my back! The incredible and overwhelming support from the Ambassadors and Lauren got me through a lot of anxiety, the unknown and just generally feeling like a failure. After months and months of gentle persuasion (aka: nagging) from Lauren, I finally set a date for my Ambassador Shoot - a month shy of the anniversary of my first boudoir shoot! I was so nervous this time around, I was judging myself so much, because I had such a clear vision of what I wanted the images to be, what I wanted to portray and what I wanted to have prepared before my shoot. I certainly wasn’t relaxed this time, but I had no expectations of my body and was not judgemental of any parts of my body. I was so unorganised too…..well, except for the lingerie! I got a wax at the very last minute, couldn’t get in for a facial and only just managed to get my nails done (cracked out the nail polish for a pedicure myself) We had a blast! The stars aligned and I got to go up on the roof, I got my industrial/stair photos and I got some nice “not too sexy” photos (because my first shoot was ALL sexy!) My confidence was back to where it once was, I felt incredible, I felt amazing, I felt like everything was meant to be exactly the way it was. The mini shoots throughout those eight months, culminating in my Ambassador Shoot really helped me in my journey of self discovery and returning back to the Kim of old… Choosing photos for my album was an incredible journey too, because we went back over all the mini shoots (there were a few), and I selected so many of those images.
My journey over that time has been difficult - sad, doubtful and scary - but I have all of these amazing photos that document it, from start to finish. I look through my album and smile, because I know that I made it through with confidence, strength and dignity. I’m so proud of my photographs - the sad and the sexy equally! Pure Beauty helped restore my faith in myself, and the knowledge that I am strong, I am confident, I am fierce, I am capable of empowering myself and I am in control of my own destiny. I still have many days where I just want to curl up and cry, and not see anyone, but on these low days, I just look at my beautiful photos, message the Ambassadors and keep moving forward. Kim xx Vee's Brand Ambassador Shoot - Mildura Portrait PhotographerHonestly there are some days I feel like a shoot wouldn't happen if I didn't have this girl working by my side. From slaying my client's make up, watering my plants, even play dates with my children!!! For every little thing you do behind the scenes, I can't thank you enough Vee. I love having you in the studio with me both in front of and behind the camera and I'm so exciting to shoot with you more in the new year. Never stop being the amazing ghoulish babe that you are. Did you have any obstacles or fears about doing this session? At first 100%, body insecurities What made you take the leap of faith to do a boudoir session? I became a brand ambassador Did I provide enough pre-session info? You certainly did and always do! How did you feel BEFORE your session? Nervous as hell! How did you like working with my team? Did you love your hair & makeup? Loved my hair! Thanks Mairee xx and loved my makeup by me hehe How would you describe the session? (poses, direction, comfort level, thoughts, FEELINGS) The session was incredible! I’m not flexible so my back arching was hard but in saying that, Lauren made it easy for me! In other poses too! My comfort level was perfect, not at any point was I uncomfortable- maybe the wedgie that I wanted to pick but nothing I couldn’t handle. My insecurities left me and I had the best time. Was the session different than you expected? If so, how? Of course it was! I don’t even know why I was so worried or damn nervous. I had the time of my life, even though I was still covered, I’d be happy to do it naked now. Lauren knew when I was getting in my own head, at the start especially. She distracted me by conversation and helped me empower and embrace the body parts that bothered me and now I don’t even look at them twice. How did you feel AFTER your session? Empowered, happy and excited. What was your favorite part? The whole thing! Mostly the laughter though. What was your least favorite part? the end of the session. Would you ever do another session? Yes and I have one booked!! How did you feel when you saw your images? Shocked, happy, emotional! Did anything change about the way you see yourself after the session? 100% I am more confident now more than I have ever been in my life. My confidence grew more and more after having my experience and seeing other women have one also. It’s so sad seeing so many beautiful people have all these awful insecurities that shouldn’t exist at all. It hurts my heart knowing people are so cruel to their own bodies. Everyone is beautiful, nobody is the same and that makes you special. Do you have any advice for women considering doing a boudoir session?
Just bloody do it! You don’t have to go to the gym to get into the “right shape” you don’t have to stop eating carbs to feel good. Just drink plenty of water and love your body for how it is. Book a session with who you are now. You’re beautiful and you deserve to feel it, Lauren is an incredible woman, and she can show you that you are too. Any final thoughts on your session, or anything you'd like other woman to know? I am so excited to do another one!! And I’m so glad I have already had one too. Be careful self love and empowerment becomes very addicting! And sharing it is so powerful. So go and book one otherwise I’ll have to steal your booking spot ;) |
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AuthorMildura resident and Photographer, Lauren Southwell launched Pure Beauty in late June, 2018 & is committed to helping woman feel beautiful, sexy and empowered through the art of Boudoir Photography. |